New Term New Challenges

New faces, new dorm rooms, new hallways, new canteens, new books. A whole lot of new, a whole lot of change, and with that, a whole lot of uncertainty, perhaps pushed below the surface. That’s the thing about life, sometimes those vulnerabilities get pushed aside, down, and into the shadows, rather than shared and owned and processed. We can help you process some of that here at The Journey Room, you are not alone.

What Transitions Stir Up

Transitions — they’re slippery. They don’t just move us from one place to another; they stretch the in-between, liminal spaces if you will, where both places exist still, where you came from, in the back mirror, and where you are going, not quite formed. It can bring about the following:

  • Identity in flux
    You thought you knew yourself last term — who your friends were, what you liked doing, even what lessons felt easy. But now? Nothing feels quite fixed anymore. Interests shift. Values evolve. The person who walked into term one might not be the same one walking into term two. But you kinda have to pretend you are the same…nothing to see here.
  • Expectations vs. Reality
    Maybe you told yourself this year you’d finally “have it together” — do better, fit in, get better grades, be more organised, have more of a social life, go to more parties. But reality often lags behind those expectations. And suddenly it all feels rather familiar, and intentions turn into realities.
  • External chaos, internal noise
    Unstable world stuff — global events, climate anxiety, politics, social media — has a way of peeking into mind space and classrooms, or during late-night scrolls. They shape how you see possibility or danger. They pull your attention, muddy your focus, raise questions. What is safe? Who can I trust? Where is any of this going? It’s getting harder to stick ones head in the sand….
  • The loneliness of change
    Even in a crowd or surrounded by roommates or classmates, transitions can feel loneliest at midnight. When everyone else seems confident (or at least faking it better than you), you might wonder if you’re the only one wading through self-doubt, grief for what you’ve lost, or fear of what might come.

Why It’s Actually Okay to Be Messy Right Now

Because growth is messy. Because you’re not broken, just in between points. It’s all welcome here. All of it. We welcome the mess and the gore of life. Its not meant to be a walk in the park but a walk in the wilderness.

  • Mess means you’re alive. If nothing ever felt uncomfortable, you probably wouldn’t be changing.
  • Uncertainty means you’re brave enough to wonder. It means you’re awake, not settled.
  • If everything were easy, you wouldn’t be stretching. The stretch hurts but it also builds new capacity.

Things You Can Do to Tend Your Mental Health This Term

Here are some kind and real ways to hold yourself steady when the ground feels like it’s shifting:

  1. Let yourself land slowly
    Resist the urge to hit reset like it’s a switch. It’s not. Maybe start with small routines — a morning ritual, a bedtime habit — that give you something familiar even when everything else is new or shifting.
  2. Write to the you in six months
    Try this: write a letter to your future self. What do you hope they remember from this moment? What fears do they still carry? What ground do you want them to have covered? It can help you see both where you are and where you want to grow.
  3. Own your boundaries
    New term = new demands. Maybe more group work, fresh friendships, more social media exposure, new pressures. You don’t have to say “yes” to everything. Decide what feels manageable. What drains you. What feels right. It’s okay to protect your edge and say no sometimes.
  4. Find your kind of connection
    Let people in. Even just one trustworthy soul can help. A roommate, classmate, tutor, therapist, or friend. Someone you can say: “I feel lost here” or “I don’t know what I want yet.” Sharing the jagged parts lessens their weight.
  5. Practice presence
    Because future worries are loud: What if I mess up? What if I don’t belong? What if the world gets worse? You don’t have to solve those now. Try grounding: breathing, walks, noticing small things (the way sunlight hits a leaf, the cup of tea, the bus that came on time). These anchor you back in your body, in this moment.
  6. Seek help early, not late
    Therapy isn’t only when everything collapses. It can be preventive. It can be a mirror to help you see yourself more clearly. A sounding board. A place to test questions. If something feels heavy, it’s okay to reach out — to someone trained, to someone safe. It’s an exercise in knowing yourself.

Change is unavoidable. But how you move through it — the kindness you offer yourself — can make that transition not just bearable, but full of possibility.

Here’s to the new term. The new you. And all the becoming in between.

Mapping the baby’s mind

This is a great clip with some amazing info relating to the impact of nurture on a baby and toddler. Their brains are plastic being moulded by everything they see and hear - learning to understand their emotions - how is this relevant - we learn those things then but we still live them now - often stuck with information about ourselves and the world that is no longer relevant - we can change them, you can change them.

I see a glint behind the mask…

Each and every one of us wear at times wear a mask, there may be a select few that see behind them, there may be no one, the mask may be so engrained into our beings that we forget we are even wearing one. But at times, the mask that is worn, can start to not fit. Start to wiggle and jiggle and rough and itch, and feel quite uncomfortable.

So what do we do then? If all those that surround us only know us with this said mask, how do we take it down? What if they don't know us without the mask, what if we will let them down? What if it feels like we are expected to wear the mask? What if we see a future where we have to be what others want us to be, rather than what we feel we are? What if we are unsure about what is behind the mask ourselves.

Counselling can offer a place to try to understand all the above. To test taking the mask down with an emapthic stranger that does not judge, and does not know. To understand the mask and all its creaks and cracks, to understand that sometimes it might be useful, but at other times it might need a revamp. We often find ourselves wearing the same mask that we put on and created when we were little children, yet as teenagers or adults, we wonder why its not fitting properly.

I invite you to reach out, do some experimenting, some exploring...you may even see the world through new eyes...people may Start. To. Know. You

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Is CBT for me?

CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) often gets a bad name. It's a name that so many people have heard of, but perhaps there is still an air of mystery about it. CBT tackles thoughts and feelings and behaviours, and helps uncover the links between them. Change or tweak one part of the circle and its a dominoe effect. Its particulaly useful in treating depression, axiety, phobias and negative thinking styles. Mind have written some more about it, and of course, we are here to answer any questions you may have.

Depressed?

Depressed? Its a common feeling, its a stubborn feeling, its a feeling that is often riddled with taboo and misunderstanding. "Pull your socks up", "get on with it", many a reaction to admitting feeling down and blue. But the truth is, Depression is a feeling thats hard to shift. Often called The Black Dog of Depression, because it follows you around, it can be worked with, it can be mastered. CBT can offer you the tools to do this.

Have a watch....

https://youtu.be/XiCrniLQGYc

Loneliness

This looks set to be an interesting watch tonight on BBC One. Sometimes the loneliest of places is when we are srrounded by the people that we love. If you are lonely, you are not alone. In such an interconnected society we are probably more alone than ever. Watch to documentary. Give us a call.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b06vkhr5

Floored resilience

It is Janaury, the festivities are over, the Christmas Tree is lying discarded on the pavement, the merriment, facade or otherwise, echos around the house. The alarm bell rings, the trudge commences, the wind blows cold, and the snow is coming...it can feel like a ghost town in our minds at this time of year. It can seem like a long old trudge back to the summer. Janaury can floor resilence, but with a helping hand, a listening ear, and some cool collaboration, things can get better again. There is no need to be alone and feel alone. Here at the Journey Room we will work with you to understand, we might be able to equip you with some tools to go out and tackle those feelings, and we will certainly walk with you through the tough times. Give us a call. We would love to hear from you, offer you a listening ear and a safe space to explore whatever is on your mind.

Christmas is coming…

Christmas is coming....but with all the pressure to be festive, its not uncommon to not feel festive at all. A time of loss for many, a time when images of happy families may ricochet across your hearts and minds to remind you of what you don't have, or did have, or want, or have but its not what it seems. And post Christmas comes a time of many a New Year Resolutions, which may be kept or may be broken. The Journey Room can help with these goals, and help you with the step by step tasks that may get you to the place you want to be. We can help you challenge those negative thoughts that trap you and keep you chasing circles. Give us a call. We're here to hear you. Loud and Clear.

Live with Dignity

It's World Mental Health Day today. A day to spead the word, spread the knowledge, and get help.

One in four adults and one in ten children are likely to have a mental health problem in any given year. This can have a profound impact on the lives of tens of millions of people in the UK, and can affect their ability to sustain relationships, work, or just get through the day.

It can start when we are kids, it can appear when we are adults, it can raise its head when we go through significant changes: adolecence, parenthood, divorce, bereavement, redundancy. Mental health escapes no one, we all have a mind, a mind we need to take care of like.

Unfortunately there is still a damaging attitude to mental health problems in the UK, where those in need are often stigmatized, which only leads to making one feel more detached and alone. But the key to prevention and getting better is to talk and share and explore.

The Journey Room is here to provide you that room to do just that.

And we feel passionate about helping you and joining the battled to break down the discrimination.

Spread the word!

http://www.slideshare.net/MentalHealthFoundation/mental-health-across-a-lifespan

#worldmentalhealthday

A Little Bit Of Vulnerability Goes Along Way

There is one Ted Talk that always resonates with The Journey Room, and that is Brene Brown giving her almost infamous talk on vulnerability. If you hav enot had the pleasure of watching, please enjoy this, and if you have, its feels for me, always a joy to re-watch and re-learn. I feel life gets that little bit more exciting when I let vulnerability in.

Feel the fear and do it anyway!

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